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How to talk to children about wildfires
It’s not easy to talk with children about wildfires and other disasters or emergencies. Words fail us, and we are going through our own emotions about it. But it is important that we have these conversations in a safe space and in a developmentally appropriate way. Children want, above all, to feel safe and loved, and that can be your focus as you approach them.
Finding Yourself in a Snow Globe: What Hallmark Holiday Movies Can Teach Us About Transformation
You either love them or hate them, but you can’t argue with the idea that Hallmark has a way of drawing us in at the holidays. Maybe it’s the perfectly fallen snow, the cozy coffee shops and bakeries filled with gingerbread goodies, or the predictably happy endings–whatever it is, it gives us all the feels. So why do these movies make us feel so much?
Navigating Family Dynamics During the Holidays
The holidays are often portrayed as joyful, but for many, they can bring stress and emotional overwhelm. Here are some strategies to help.
How to stop rumination
Are you banging your head against a metal pole, dwelling on the one mistake in an otherwise good moment? Maybe it’s time to spend your energy in a way that’s helpful. Read on for some tips for how to stop rumination and get more creative in your thinking
Reframing Surrender
Surrender comes from the Anglo Norman French roots for “to give back over.” Of course, if we look at it through the lens of control and dominance, then we would assume that what we give back over is, indeed, our power. But suppose for a moment that we put on different lenses–ones that reflect connectedness and respect for self and others. What, then, would we give back over? How could we reframe surrender?
Unlocking the power of anger: Empowering yourself with sacred rage
When I first introduced the concept of sacred rage, I was met with silence and deer in the headlight looks. My heart pounded–OH NO, I thought. I’ve just unleashed Pandora’s Box (another archetype I want to dive into, but I digress). If there’s one thing that my years in education taught me, it’s that silence is powerful, albeit unnerving. So I let it be. I gave it time to let the words sink in, to let the old beliefs and patterns feel the disruption. And then, bit by bit, the comments started to flow. I wasn’t expecting participants’ reaction.